Selasa, 23 Agustus 2011


We all have friends of the opposite sex. I have many friends of childhood, family friends and acquaintances I knew from work, church or of my comings and goings. Close friends of opposite sex talk from time to time and we often ask each other questions about what is going on in our lives. The big question: You should ask about love relationship advice ever from them?
There are three camps on this, but before we dig into them, let's talk about the psychology of love. The law of attraction is a funny thing and a person may be attracted to you when you least expect it. This is something to be aware when asking girls and the advice of people because there is a thin line between friendship and romance. Men need to be careful because the male instinct that makes us see many female partners as a potential partner. If you intend to keep a woman as a friend be sure to draw the line early and often and re-emphasize your primary relationship and your dedication to it so that there would be a mistake.
With that said, let's look at romantic advice from friends of the opposite sex:

• Women and the advice of people will be limited to the experience of a friend. Ask a general question would be fine but advice on more specific subjects that will be directly related to that person's experience and personality. A friend who is the life of the party will definitely give you different advice from a shy and reserved, so consider your sources carefully.
• They may have a secret crush on you. These people often will mix their thoughts and feelings with their advice, and may ask you questions to answer just so they can check your interest. It is not always a bad thing, especially if you are not in a committed relationship and sometimes friends of the opposite sex turns into love relationships. The contrary can be true if you are in a committed relationship and the time spent with this type of "friends" could wind up causing you to question your relationship with your lover. If that is the case, do not allow this to undermine what has been built over time and examine the facts rather than feelings when it comes to love relationships.

• A suggestion from a friend who is older or very platonic relationship. Often the advice of the most honest and true you can get. Maternal and paternal advice to fall here and I can not tell you how much I learned from my parents in this regard. If you are in a committed relationship and have to ask someone a question, this is the person you should ask (Sexual is a different sort of question, of course).
Girls and suggestions of people from friends can also be interesting. A friend's wife gave me interesting insights about what should I do on my fifth anniversary and it's great advice about doing something special with my gift presentation. They will also be willing to share the things they are doing with your peers is more willing to frequent, especially if you are close friends and they tend to want to please you as a favor to their own mate (ie if they see you as an ally rather than as a rival to their attention). Use the association if you have them to help you.
Opposite sex friend's advice can be a good source of info on improving your romantic relationship, but remember only that - suggestions. Depending on your own mind to make decisions about love and communicate often with your loved ones to make the relationship better. Psychology of love is a funny thing and you have to remember that spending too much time with members of the opposite sex tend to build up the object - to spend time and energy with people you really want to build lasting relationships with and draw lines of fellowship with others.